He was very straight forward and i liked that about him. You will unlock the door to a perspective that will make so much sense to you. We did txt dailykisses and sweet nothings. He agreed and said he should of called or answered my phone calls. No, I call that being inconsiderate! He will be driven to stake his claim so there will be no risk of losing his prized person to another. With online dating, I advocate meeting someone pretty soon somewhere in public after the initial contact. @_@ Im not obsessed with the guy, its more of an obsession with wanting to know why. Youre probably more grown up than he is in general. As a woman Ive been told by magazines, reality shows, media that relationships are this or that but the real deal is, humans are too complex to be fit into criteria. I mean, how do you go out of your way to get my number from someone else, flirt with me at work text me and call me beautiful and make plans to hang out and shit then just out of no where you stop talking, you dont even want a hug from me any more, and you quit your job on top of thay now i really wont be able to see you anymore. I lost my mate of 23+ years to cancer over a year ago. Let him go. He would even insinuate things to come in our relationship. But we would cuddle and kiss. This guy, being from the same I know him! But these guys are in their mid 30s and 40s. Personally, I dont think my value or worth is dependent upon rather or not someone responds quickly. But now he hardly txts me, tells me what hes doing or is sweet. Now thats not confusing at all *sarcasm*. we keep argued since, as he keep saying theyre only friends. deep in my heart I like him a lot, but as what sabrina says, dont take it personally, I dont follow what I feel, but mostly follow my brain. But i stop them from becoming full blown by reminding myself that if his reason for disappearing is because of his unwillingness to support me when im going through a stressful time, do i really want that kind of relationship? I recently joined a dating site and met with someone whos company I enjoyed. When I want to hear from him I text him, he replies always. Hello, Ive been dealing with the remorse of my recent actions in my relationship. talked back and forth etc, had a wonderful phone chat before meeting up. She was funny, attractive, fit, and wore glasses (i love glasses!) You're Just Not A Priority For Him. I called him like 3 or 4 times everyday for about 5 days, he didnt answer. Theyll get the message eventually. I know I just need to let him go (which I have, Im not contacting him). This was two weeks ago. I was inconsolable because if dating me was too consuming with work, why would he be looking for something new? Was there any girl or behavour that you reacted differently to? He doesnt deserve you in the first place and you shouldnt even consider waiting for him. But he was articulate and sounded confused and I made the excuse of well, hes fresh out a relationship. Regardless our chemistry was intense and he was so attentive constantly telling me how hes saving himself for me and how just the thought of us seeing each other when he returns is just amazing. As much as he seemed great, that didnt matter. He was more than there for me. After borrowing money of course. At first I was hesitant to message him back but, I thought what the heck. was in a relationsip with a guy for two years, at the time he was financially struglling so he asked for help and i helped him but he didnt know how to stop, kept making promises abt our future so i finally put my foot down and said i cant help u further if u cant do anything for me or commit to this reationship, Well this man caused me to lose my job and so forth we eventually sat down and talked abt it and how we were gonna fix it, and he saying I am gonna fix this I will call u later well this was the last face to face convo this guy because a few days later he changed his number and blocked me on social media and i havent heard from him in two months, I was devasted like what did I do. I just got sucked into his web of lies. Fast forward, to a year ago. Do you deserve an explanation? She was in love with this guy. ::(( I even bought some lil And this came after he didnt visit me for over a month ish even though he works like 8-9 mins from my house (he lives 40 ish mins away). She shrugged and said the heart wants what it wants. Sadly thats BS, she wasnt listening to her heart, she was listening to fear. Then the next few days his texts were shorter. Around the six month mark I realized I was falling for him and that I actually loved him. Is he curious about you? I met a guy online about a month ago and right off the bat it was constant texting and getting to know each other. I later realised he wasnt interested at all and its very painful. We had been dating for 2 months. 5. Being stuck up. At first, this seemed romantic because it meant that he was thinking of you. Yes, indeed I have been victim of this several times and it is extremely painful and frustrating because you open up to the guy and invest your time and energy just to be disposed of like and unwanted item. I am interested, however, in hanging out with someone who follows through and does what it is that they say, and actually I find that sexy.. Youve been waiting for him for way too long and he doesnt deserve any more of your patience. There was a picture was posted with his name. In the 8 days Ive come to own i was overly invested in this relationship because I enjoyed the connection, and that we dont really know each other very well but I cant understand why he doesnt want his stuff back, or why hed be willing to throw away a friendship at the very least. I wouldve never gone along with that had I not thought this dude was something else. In my heart, I am thinking that just maybe he didnt get this email, and that he blocked me for ignoring him. When we were together in the room there was plenty of kissing. Let them wonder what youre so happy about and why youre so happy without them. it probably means he has zero tolerance for even the mildest sort of confrontation and simply doesnt relate well to other grown ups when communication is key, ie awkward/emergency/emotional situations. Im not fond of my birthday, nor am I a normal woman who fawns over all children & babies, so I would never have done either of those things without him starting themwhich he did. So I replied telling him to hit the road! kudos for moving on and being strong about it. that someone in his field of work could be so cowardly to just simply say, i am not into this any more. Always told me how much he loved me. Anyone, either male or female, who has been ignored or avoided, understands that this hurts. We hit it off and we end up hooking up before I left. and I had to answer im not going anymore three months later, I texted him, saying that I deserved an answer as to why he had done this to me. Im not going to text/call him going forward. To use the expression you need to find a grown ass man lol. Its just like Poof. Therefore, if youd like to keep talking to him and develop a healthy relationship, you should address problems and lay out your conditions and expectations, and he should do the same. I said thanks. so there is no frikin way that i am going to text him after reading about your experiences. - Examples, What to do when a guy ignores your texts? Sure, I was the Cool Girl with no drama, no neediness, but thats still not enough Btw, I found out that he got married soon after he emailed me. He hates being lied too and cant even be frank with me or others. When you want to text him what your needs are, it can sound something like this: Hey, I hope youre doing okay since I havent heard back from you. Maybe he saw another piece of ass at the store and told himself: Screw that chick, Im hittin this instead! Who the hell knows?! I have since deleted his number and moved on.. Since it was online dating, I took it with a grain of salt and tried to not get too excited. If a guy doesn't text you for a week or ten days, even after you have left him a message or two, you know that he is not interested in you. My daughter thinks hes gay. Yet he keeps telling me i miss you, I like you more than anyone and i do hope to see you again. So 2 hrs later I went back into the dating site and noted he was not in my contacts list. If you had never met in person it may be that he doesnt look ANYTHING like what you imagined and was unwilling to go through with a personal meetup. More responsible ^*( person ) to do that. We used to text at least once daily, now it has been 6 days. Im sure youve read numerous books about men being one track minded whereas women tend to be multi-focusers. I deleted him because I didnt even want to see his name pop up in my newsfeed lol. Of weeks. 3. He was so nice to me, always looking out for my safety, appeared honest and genuinely caring but we never really had anything exclusive, although I visited him and met his family in France and he came to visit me for a few weeks the last time in Canada. He also treated me as if I am his girlfriend and was perfectly treating me. And he still ghosted. Having said that, it is still so fresh and I cant think of anything else, the tears keep flowing. You are so right!! Only he knows the exact reason, and only he can give you the exact one. Sometimes it means he is multi dating. We had a lovely farewell, I had lots of calls from him at the airport and then one or two when he arrived with them there is a time difference. Im dealing with possible cancer and he could care less. Through his revolutionary coaching programs, Cracking the Man Code, Mat Boggs has helped millions of women around the world attract true love and create fulfilling relationships that last. 7 days no contact!! This situation is quite bizarre because literally we have not stopped talking to each other. and no news nothing just disappeared. He disappeared and ]has vanished without a trace. To help you deal, let me tell you a personal story. Interested men with continue to show interest. Almost every one of your friends has met at least one guy who disappeared from their lives suddenly and then decided to come back after some time. he reappeared with an excuse, after i tried to reach out to him on several occasions when he initially started to pull away but was he nice enough to reply to my text back then..NO! Continued to talk and then he asked to meet for drinks. i cant force anybody to talkand there is no point in losing my dignity. It will cost you both friendships and relationships. There might have been a misalignment of interests, and he chose to disappear since he knows that you wont meet those expectations. I had a similar experience in my LDR but I can never be sure if she was slowly trying to make me a friend as to let me down gently, or she saw I gave her space so she gave me more as not to chase, her texts became less warm and more about small talk, she stopped saying good night before bed (which shes done 99.9% of the time for nine months), she was definitely withdrawing as I watched over several weeks not just a couple of messages, the quality and frequency of her communication deteriorated and I felt it. how can I deal with that?). One of my dates recently told me she spent 6 months with a guy who was a total robot and never showed a shred of emotion, yet when he finally broke up with her she was hurt. unless last time when I sent a general invitation for an event in town , he replied by asking my holiday etc. I thought men outgrew this but even pushing 50, some are still at it. Are you ladies really this dense? He seemed like a very reasonable, mature guy and it literally seemed perfect THEN the morning after we spent an awesome intense night together he was quiet via text. Im so sorry you found yourself in this situation. I said ok. Later that night he texted and sounded very irritated and reiterated that he had a bad day and just needed time with his son. Im really confused. Before then, we were fine i think. Not to be vain but she was nothing g special to look at smissed it but it caught my interest. Exact thing happened to me but this was with an ex that came back. Well, there actually is and youre about to find out what. I eventually met a guy in the same position as me, he lived on the other side of the world, and we just emailed everyday, getting to know each other. . I like to feel Im a rational human being, but even Ive creeped on profiles of people I thought my object of affection was interested inthat makes me a psycho? So has he lost all physical attraction and would never want to explore us again? Woth other people, friends, etc too. Keep in mind. I opened up to him deeply. It was like we had known each other for years instead of just a month. I already have many men giving me attention and treating me nice, yes it is hard to trust them and I will probably get hurt again. We get too caught up in how people are supposed to act and our expectations continually suffer because of it. Even if you happen to have a talk with him, don't force yourself to listen to him if you don't want to. However, instead of discussing his concerns and his decision like an adult, he disappeared because that saves the trouble of having to explain it to you. As a woman whose husband cheated, what you did was not right. He told me that he still loved me he just had a lot on his mind. He was leaving the next day, so I met up with him and asked him if he wanted to spend time with his friend instead but he said no and we went for brunch and then a walk and had a good time. The women who are actually in exclusive relationships are usually being mistreated by the man in some way anyway. You dont have to be insulting to tell them why. That being said, yeah, the guy was a douche. The world is full of con artists and losers, dont give them cash. Then silence for months. since then he never replied again its awhile now hes too busy to text me back but go on facebook all the time ok. like he wasnt interested in me cant just tell me point blank instead of leaving me hanging #douchebag. No explanation. Men often do this thinking it's nicer and less confrontational than some ugly emotional scene when you realize he's not going to stick around. The answer is to realize the person you want in your life WANTS you in theirs (And im not saying theres only one out there theres tons!). When he disappears from your life without a sign, you can easily text him with what you expect from him. Throw it away, set it on fire, mail it back to him if you really want to make sure he gets it, but dont contact him. So, you should reconsider whats going on and try to realize whether its time to cross him off once and for all. Its disgusting but karma has a way of going around. I did get back on Facebook after a couple of weeks of silence and I noticed he removed me from his friends list. Well I am pregnant and so it makes it much more harder to just accept a disappearance! I dont even know what will happen if he wanted to come back. Different than his. I was just voicing how I was feeling. That does not make you a bad guy. unfortunately this sounds like he decided the physical vibe/attraction just wasnt there. I sent him a long chat, asking him if he was alright, but he didnt even open the chat. There will be nothing to wonder about. Maybe hes not over his ex and still lacks trust in women. 3. 31441 Santa Margarita Pkwy, #A-364, Rancho Santa Margarita, CA 92688, FREE EBOOK: The 5 Feminine Qualities High Value Men Find Irresistible, The 5 Feminine Qualities High Value Men Find Irresistible, How to Tell Him What You Want (and get it), The Impact of Social Media on Your Personal Relationships. Once weve gotten burned by these type of characters will show they dont care and nothing we do to try to have them explain or reveal themselves will matter because it simply doesnt matter to them. And now he has just disappeared in thin air. These are about the only good signs he has giving me along with being flirty but more recently when talking he takes forever to reply and just doesnt finish the conversation. And you cant do the wrong thing with the right man. I offered to come help him, he declined. Now, if he got sick, of course I would be by his side, we promised we would never leave each other, and we had so many plans as a new family. I know he is going through a lot of issues right now but just dont know what to think of this. Me anymore? ), This exact same thing just happened to me to! He gets the benefits of a relationship without having to commit. . Im sure of what I want. And now I have someone constantly poking me on Facebook and sending me stickers who I consider a new friend, maybe more. I do not take being intimate lightly and I was devastated and very hurt. 1: because he is married and Ive never initiated contact, he always did. If a relationship was deep enough, men owe us. OMFG lady. But now he keeps viewing my profile WHY? I was so nervous I was a rambling mess but we hung out for hours at the end of the night his work phone rang ( he was on call ) and he ran out. I text. Dont do it. I started to let my guard down and he made me feel so comfortable and so loved and we had so much fun. He then asked me to meet up with him and his friends at a bar a few nights later and I said sure. Another sign) Unfortunately I made the schoolgirl error of drinking on an empty stomach and got very drunk. I just think that women tend to be too quick to say that a man doesnt care over something as silly as not calling them every 5 seconds. Well, a few weeks ago he was having a few issues going on with his older daughter and our conversations were getting less and less. So I figured by the weekend if we were still talking he would want to see me. Care to join? Almost everyone on this website understands that feeling. He had begun to tell me he was falling in love with me, and spoke of a future (kids, white picket fence, the whole ordeal). Thus, instead of choosing to end things on a good note and maturely, he disappeared because it was the easy way out. So the worst part is that now Im torturing myself not only thinking that he had this planned long time ago and just wast waiting for the day of stabbing me in the back like this, he either knew that I been living with my family and didnt get settled with a lease here in the USA because I had the hopes of seeing him again and he knew this same week my family treated me like crap, and I couldnt wait to get out of here and see him again and all those plans of this past week. I could see he has read messages but didnt bothered to respond. no response to texts no phone calls no anything. Then I got concerned. Have you contacted him again? The good news is, that doesnt diminish you and what you have to offer some other great guy. 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